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Something To Think About
New
Year’s Resolutions?
Here we
are again, at the start of a new year. And everyone is busy
making New Year’s resolutions and unfortunately, like you, I
don’t often manage to stick to them. This brings up a couple of
questions: Why can’t I meet those resolutions and what affect
will these failures have on me when I cannot meet them?
First,
when I look at the astrology involved with starting something
new, it would be better to remember that new projects are best
begun on the New Moon of the month. However, this is not at the
beginning of the month. So, astrologically speaking, when I set
New Year’s resolutions, to be started at the beginning of the
New Year, I have already set myself on an uphill task, even if
the resolutions are do-able and reasonable.
This
brings up another thing that has to be considered. Can I
accomplish the resolutions I am making or am I attempting
something beyond my abilities. How often have I said that I am
going to lose weight, or exercise or some other daily life
change? If I want to lose weight, perhaps it would be better to
say that I am going to lose 10 pounds, in the next 2 months.
When I do this kind of resolution, there is a specific amount of
time and weight involved, and I am done when the time is up. It
is not a constant, all year long, thing that hounds me and
forces me to feel like a failure forever if I don’t accomplish
it. And when I do accomplish it, I can know that I did it before
and go on with the rest of the year. I can even set more goals,
knowing that I have the success of the last goal to give me a
boost.
But
what if you or I are unable to do what we want? Do we beat
ourselves up? I sincerely hope not. Ok, we didn’t succeed this
time. What happened? Do we need to make the goal more
reasonable? Perhaps we were trying for too much? Do we want to
try another, modified goal? That can be a decision for later.
Although the goal seemed to be a good idea at the time, perhaps
with reflection, we realize that it wasn’t as realistic as we
thought. It would be better to give ourselves a break. If we
tried and didn’t succeed, OK. Let’s cut ourselves some slack
and try again if we want, with a modified goal. It seemed like a
do-able goal, a good idea, at the time. We, now, know that it
wasn’t. But hind-sight is 20-20. Let it go. It would be
better not to continue to blame ourselves and feel guilty that
we didn’t meet the expectation. It would be better not to blame
ourselves. Just readjust goal to be more do-able and try
again. It would be better not to beat ourselves up.
Perhaps
it would be better if we were to determine that we are going to
better our lives in other ways. Why not adopt the 7 principles:
Love, Compassion, Understanding, Honesty, Honor, Humility, and
the theory that the Means must justify the End. As you work on
these principles, it is not a matter of success or failure, but
an effort to change your life for the better through the way you
live. And as you proceed, you are your own measure. The changes
that occur in your life may not be noticeable to you, but others
will see the changes in you. You win, others win, everyone
benefits.
If you
feel the necessity of traditional goals, you may want to modify
how you make them AND you may want to wait until the next New
Moon or start the resolution before the end of the year to
coincide with the New Moon of December. Both ideas give you a
better chance at success. But, perhaps, if you really want to
change your lives, consider one or more of the 7 principles on
which to concentrate. You will be surprised at the changes and
difference in your life.
©
Heather Hunziker - January, 2012
Peace,
Heather
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